Name: Tasmin P.
Location: South Africa
Nationality/Religion: South African/Christian
University student in last year of undergrad. Studying to become a teacher. Love reading, writing, drawing, music and going on spontaneous adventures.
How has Beating Eating Disorders helped you?
Given me hope, feeling that I’m not alone and helps me remember to not be so hard on myself
Where are you in your recovery journey?
I am almost 11 months sober, struggling a little at the moment but taking it one day at a time.
What are your future recovery orientated goals?
Maybe start a support group in the town my university is in as there is none. Focus more on my needs and make sure I am keeping myself safe by being accountable and to ask for help
What is the most helpful thing someone has said to you? What has been the most harmful?
Most helpful: I am proud of you, you are doing well even if you don’t think you’re doing well.
Most harmful: just stop binging and your problem is solved.
Share some of your recovery insight.
Recovery will never be an easy ride, but it is a 100 times better, even though it’s challenging, than being in a space where your ED voice has control of you and your life. I can love more, I can feel I am more myself, I am more happy, I allow myself to feel and most importantly do it for yourself. It’s very rough in the beginning, but the more you reach out, go to meetings, build a support system and check in with yourself as well as put your needs first while taking it one meal at a time or one day at a time. You will get there. Stumbling blocks are normal, triggers are normal. An eating disorder should never be something you are ashamed of, your recovery will be something you can be super proud of. No matter how terrible you feel it’s going, you should feel proud for giving yourself an opportunity at a better life.
Is there anything else you would like to add that you want people to know? Any advice to give to fellow sufferers?
As much as you feel alone, you are not and never will be. Support groups are filled with people who get you, who will support you and who will be your shoulder to cry on. Don’t ever let anyone undermine your struggle, eating disorders are real and they are extremely difficult to deal with. Educate people on eating disorders, let them know what it’s about-even if they will never understand you still did your best in trying to educate someone on something that needs more awareness. Also it will help your family and friends to support you through your recovery. Remember that they might not understand it fully because they do not have to deal with an eating disorder, but you can help them to learn how to help you get through every day.