by Kayla Jenkins
We have to start appreciating what we were given, make your own body your goal. Aspire to be the best person that you’re capable of being; body and mind. Be kind to other women, and appreciate the beauty and the differences that we all possess rather than envy others and then look down upon yourself.
Having a summer body is easy, simply have a body in the summertime. Embrace it, enjoy every moment, and dare to be rebellious adoring your own body. Please don’t ever feel like you need to cover your body up to make other people feel more comfortable around you. Everybody is entitled to dress for the weather, and the current temperature to make sure that they are the most relaxed. You were born to stand out rather than hide away, so do what’s best for you and shout your self- love from the roof tops. Let it be known that you are a self-assured woman and that you feel sexy and comfortable regardless of anyone else’s opinion of you.
You’ll notice that when you no longer care what other people think of you, and when their opinions no longer eat away at your mind you will live a much happier life. At first the idea of not caring about others opinions will feel foreign as you have cared for most of your life, like me, but trust me this care-free attitude is attainable. I also no longer feel saddened about my own appearance when I see a stunning woman. I recognize their attractiveness, but I also know now that I am beautiful as well. I would have also falsely accused a good-looking woman of being an unpleasant person but I realise now that this was just the green monster existing in my mind making absurd assumptions in an attempt to make myself feel better about my own looks.
Start giving more compliments, and being kind to others, especially those beautiful women. When you see something that you like about another person instead of being spiteful, tell them. It doesn’t have to be about their appearance either; make their day, and in turn make your day too. Tell people that you appreciate them, that you’re proud of them, that they inspire you and why. Make the conversations you have with people about much more than your looks and what you dislike about yourself. Start talking to your friends, and family about what you love about yourself, and what you appreciate about them. Sit back and watch as the ones around you slowly start to pick up on your positivity and begin mimicking your kind words, and actions.
I can still vividly remember one summer when I was a young girl. I was aware of my size at this point in time, and I knew that I was overweight. I was uncomfortable in my body, and I was ashamed of myself. I wore long pants, and a hooded sweatshirt every single day. This is one of my earliest memories of pretending I was okay when I really wasn’t. I would lie to everyone who asked and say that I was cold. Of course I wasn’t cold, I can still feel the sweat trickle down my back but I was trying to hide my rotten body. The majority of my past summer days and recollections may be blemished and less than good due to my self-shaming attitudes and negative body image but that will not stop me from making the very best of my summers, and life in general to come.
I plan to hold onto this new found self-love and appreciation for my own body and create new, fond memories for myself to look back on instead. I will be brave, and I will wear seasonal appropriate clothing that makes me feel comfortable, and proud to be me, and I will not hold myself back from participating in activities due to fear of resentment and bullying. I will also do my very best to help others see their own beauty; inside and out, and I urge you to do the same.